General Mannerheim wrote:
i do like the sound of that, although it would be difficult to get away with if done locally. it could upset a few people, also how do you know where to stop with 'those you love the most'?
id definitely not be inviting step-uncles or twice removed cousins just becasue im expected to, or any cousins tbh, just becasue we share the same bloodline somewhere... and another one is having to invite people on the back of them inviting you to theirs!?
i have conducted hundreds of weddings... the one that still stands out in my mind as the most joyful was one where there were just 8 people present - the couple - their 2 kids and four best friends (who acted as witnesses) ... (I think parents might have been dead)
it was joyful because...
they just loved each other and actually WANTED to be married
they were not spending the day stressing about other people and whether THEY were happy
they were totally relaxed
they got married in the church - it was a midweek daytime - and then went to a restaurant over the road. there was no stupid huge dress or any of that malarkey - they just dressed a bit smarter than normal - maybe as if they were going to someone else's wedding... they came down the aisle to D-Ream "Things can only get better" (before Blair tainted it!) with their kids dancing about and carrying helium balloons...
in my experience - the bigger they get - the more stressed and anxious people are - and they are more and more miserable...